PSYCHOLOGIST MYHAIL
LABKOVSKI ABOUT RELATIONSHIP: OUTRAGEOUSLY AND APT QUOTES
These
quotes have done much contraversy there: someone accepts them, and
someone does not. But, all they are based on many years of
experience and written in cynicism mood. So, they will leave no one
indifferent.
-- To have a happy
family, married, sexual life with one partner, it is necessary
to have a stable psychics. Neither concessions, nor
compromises will help. This way it is only possible to get
some cardiological or oncological disease. When the person has a
stable psychics, he or she can live together with a person
all life long and be in love with one person only, too.
-- We measure the love
with the level of suffering. But, the healthy love it is just
how much you are happy there.
-- The healthy person
does not want to get married. The first that you have to do
when you got the desire to get married, this is to get
rid of the desire to get married. In other words, if you
want to get married, stop thinking about that, make the value
of that idea up to the zero point.
-- What is necessary
to do to get married there? In fact, it is necessary only one
thing: to be yourself. It is enough. And, in total, they love
for that.
-- Modesty does not make
anyone better. Because of complexes, being not self-confident,
low self value, the girl is living without relationship and
sex not because she is ugly, but because she has a bad
attitude to herself. Such the girl has to get rid of this.
-- They do not like
people because they bend down. Such the woman for the man will
be just nothing there. The paradox is that men just adore the
stern women.
-- The reason of
women's problem is not that he is treating there like the ass
hole. The reason is that the woman has a nervous there that
needs the exit. For that exit there is necessary a particular
man and relationship, in which she could suffer. That's why
in subconscious way she is starting such the relationship,
because from childhood she has a psychological need of that.
-- The men are created
like this that since childhood they come to those who gives
them approval with eyes. The healthy man is like a kid. He
comes up when the woman is smiling there, watch into his eyes.
-- When one person is
exchanging for another person the entire world, it means that
such the person does not have his or her own world there.
-- Do you know the
primary difference between the healthy person and neurotic
there? The healthy person also suffer, but because of the real
stories. And neurotic suffers from the invented stories. And, if
there are not enough sufferings, he or she would look for and
find the extra portion there.
-- The woman never has
to stand what she does not like in the relationship. She has
immediately talk about that. And, if the man is not
changing, she has to separate with him.
-- The men, like
children, both like when the woman has a character.
-- If you do not like
how the man is treating there, do not look for justification
of his behaviour. The situation in which he did not call back,
for a normal woman means the end of the relationship. And for
not a healthy one means the beginning of love.
-- And what about
looking for a partner there... It is important if your partner
is clinging to you. If you love him, if you are worried
about him, then there are no limits.
-- When the stewardess is
demonstrating you the saving life devises, what is she telling
you about the oxygen masks there? When you are travelling with
a child, first support yourself with the mask and then the
child. And, here is the point. Everybody wants to help the
child, remaining completely crazy there. It does not work like
this. If you wish the child was well doing there, do
something with your head at first.
-- The healthy people
always choose themselves, and neurotics always choose the
relationship to the detriment of themselves, and here is the
difference between both groups of people.
-- Being single it is
not the lack of love from outside. This is the lack of
interest to the own personality, and, by the way, from the
times of childhood.
-- The only one period of
time in the life of the person is when the person is
dependent on circumstances, is childhood and this is dependence
on parents. In other cases, being in the relationship or not,
this is the choice of grown up person.
-- The family therapy is
the divorce. And the only one kind of family therapy is
really useful: where the mediator while divorcing is the
psychologist.
