TO KEEP THE RELATIONSHIP TO GO ON IN THE RIGHT MOOD, ALWAYS STAY COOL!

TO KEEP THE RELATIONSHIP TO GO ON IN THE RIGHT MOOD, ALWAYS STAY COOL!

Someone fell in love. Unexpectedly. And what's now?It is important to stay cool!

First of all, it is necessary to forget about the stereotypes of the behaviour that the glamour magazines or TV movies show there up...

The more the person takes the relationship seriously and is worried to loose it, the more chances there are to arrive it still will finish in that bad way. Keeping to the behaviour that is common in society there (everything has to be like this, and no way for something else), the person has to control herself or himself, the behaviour of the partner, the surrounding...And all this makes tired very quickly and makes the nervousness to appear on.

There are some couples that seems like to be perfect about everything. But, in one moment they suddenly tore apart for not visible reasons. And the opposite: the couples who do not live according to what is considered like a norma in the society, continue relationship and stay together.

The right decision is to accept the uncertainty. When the relationship is just started, it is hard to control it. The partners do not know each other. They do not know what the other one feels, thinks. Trying to check the guessing there, the person can deal in an impulsive way. For example, the partner can call to get to know something that is not important, to check the partner and the feelings of the partner, may be even sometimes not in a right way. Later such the person can also feel sorry for being that obsessive. Stay cool in this period of uncertainty. In this way it is possible to wait for the development of the relationship in a calm way.

Do not skip the conflict.

At first, at the beginning of the relationship the person does not pay much attention on something that the couple have in different there. Specially, when there is the love present, too. But, with the months and years passing, such the small problem, like dirty socks, for example, can grow up to the terrible measures. It is better to discuss the things that can make the other partner to feel not in a good way, or to irritate, then to keep everything inside. This way, the bomb that can burst later, if not to, will be stopped immediately.

Do not be in a hurry to make yourself guilty about everything.

It is better to look for the negative things outside the relationship. For example, if some evening did not happen in the way it was expected, it does not mean that one or both of the partners are guilty about that. It is better to take it in this way: "Probably, today it is not our day. Tomorrow it will be a better one".

After the first meeting take the time-out.

At the first dating try to get to know as much information about the partner, as it is possible. Specially, pay attention on his manners, his smile, the way he is watching at you and talking there.