A CAREFUL FATHER

A  CAREFUL  FATHER 

It  possible  to have  two  princesses  and  loose both  of  them. For  example,  in  case you  lie  to  both  of  them,  finding  it like  a  way  to protect  yourself  and do  what  you  want. 

The Dad, after divorce with the woman, did not abandon the  child. He paid alimony, talked to. With his new wife, the  child from  the  first married, had a normal relationship,  too. 

Once the  new wife  of  the  guy decided to talk to the child-girl “as an adult”.  The  woman explained that she wants to communicate about weekends. As the  girl's  father every week stays with the baby-girl,  that’s why  she  never  see  him  on  week-ends  this  way. So,  she  was  offering to  find  a  solution,  if  the  girl  agreed,  to  spend  week-ends  all  together. 

And  the  child answered  that  she talked with her  father only two months ago on the phone,  no  holidays  together  since  then,  too.   She  wanted,  but  he  used  to  tell  the  girl  that he was very busy at work. And he did not  go  to  the  cinema together with  his  child and did  not buy a new phone, as  the new wife of  the  guy  used  to  say…

After  this  talk  the  man  lost  both :  the  new  wife  that applied  for  the  divorce  and  the  teenager daughter, who  did  not  like  cheating  in  this  way  and  stopped talking  to  the  father. 

Comment  of psychologist:

The guy,  who  is  the father,  is  a willy man. He is covering  himself with the  child  in  front  of  the lady, whom he  is  meeting  with. And,  he  is covering  himself  with  the  lady,  he  staying  with,  in front  of  the  child. And  both,  child and  woman, have  to  understand  he is  not  doing  something there, because  he  can  not do  something,  because  he  is  sharing himself  among  two people. In general,  it  can  happen  in the  life like this,  if  the  person  is  a  good  one  and  taking the responsibilities. And  here  it is a game  into a  good person who understand the  duty. But,  indeed, the  guy has  another  one  goal:  to skip  responsibilities. Both,  baby and  new  woman, that  followed  after  wife.  

Whatever you  do,  you  have  to  think  well. Think  about  the results  it  can  bring  to. In  this situation  the  guy  did  not  obtain  the result:  the good  opinion  of  both  daughter and his  lady. That's sad. Nobody  likes  to  be cheated. Depends  sure,  how  much  damage can  bring such  the  cheating behaviour,  at the  moment  and  later. The  guy  is  not  a  professional  one in  his  lies. But,  the  lie,  in  all cases  is ruining in  this  situation.