WHEN SPEACHLESS STARTED TO TALK
There are people who use their situation to obtain something. And there are people who do even worse: invent the situation to obtain what they want.
One girl used to meet a silent guy for six months. She thought he was speechless. Seems like all was ok, and both were happy like this...
… This day the girl said that she is going to do sport. And let the guy the key and let him to arrive before she was returned back.
As the classes of yoga finished a bit earlier, then expected, normally that the girl came back a bit faster. She decided to make a surprise to her boy-friend this way. In stead of that, it was the guy, who was made her very much surprised then.
When entered the hall, the girl have heard the unknown voice talking to someone. And, when the girl entered the room, she saw her beloved talking! He was loudly fighting with his with the "beloved" because of the money…
The fact that the guy cheated her and another girl at the same time, was less bad, then the fact that he lied to her that he could not talk. The rapport was finished immediately.
Comment of psychologist:
Lie is always bad. There are many ways to say the truth in not a painful way.
If the lie happening just to obtain something in an easy way, it is a kind of stealing already. In this situation, the guy wanted to obtain love and other goods. And he was pretending speechless. Comfortable. No need to talk, so seems like no lie. It is a kind of not talking. In a willy mood. And pretending is the biggest lie there. It is also a kind of game, where normally people are sorry about disable person. So, a double game. A willy and easy solution. An actor play. But, all the hidden, sooner or later becomes visible. So, this way the guy was burned down on this. Lier, experienced one, but the fortune played a game with him: he did not expect unpredictable circumstances there.
The guy pretending very realistic, as we see two girls believe. He is not stupid. He plays with the feelings. The person might be dangerous, if finds the right person to play with her or his feelings. The feelings are the most powerful weapon. The person, whom feelings are playing with there, is in danger, because does not always understand what is going on, and that it might be just a game. When we are under control of feelings, we indeed do not control ourselves. And it is the one of the worst things that can happen, not to control yourself, or control partly. The brain has to be up to all, not the feelings, so not to do stupid things that later might be regretted. In this situation it is difficult to evaluate the situation with the right mind. As, it was hard to predict that the guy is pretending in such the way. Only, if to check if the guy is really speechless. How to do it? Create the circumstances he is not expecting, like danger or great surprise, that he also loose control about his behaviour.
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