“I DO NOT NEED SECOND ME”

“I  DO NOT NEED  SECOND  ME” 

This guy left  his  girl-friend, because  he  did  not  like  her behaviour. The  funny  thing  is  that  it  happened when the  girl  simply  started  to  copy  the  behaviour of  that  guy. And treat  him the  same  way like he  was  treating  with  her. 

The  girl presented a frying pan with the words “You will fry pancakes and cutlets now". After work, she came back from  the office and fell down on  the  sofa in  front  of  the  TV set to watch  something. When he came and asked what was for dinner, she answered playfully: "What will you cook, darling?". 

She began to call his collection of tin soldiers "This your peasant crook", and condescending to joke every time he added a new one. She promised for two weeks to fix  some clothes of  his, made him to "fuck off” the way  she  was  doing, and used  to send the claims for quality of the things  he  was  doing  there. 

“If  you  do not like it, go to the studio then, I'm not a seamstress, I did not study for that, you know”. -  Used   to  say she  with  a  particular  expression  of  the  face. 

In this case, she did not hide from him, from whom she was taking an example. He left with the words: "I need a good woman, not a second me."

Comment  of psychologist:

People  like  to judge others often. Somebody's mistakes or  wrong  behaviour more visible for  critic of people. And  not  always all people want or  even  can  evaluate their  own  behaviour properly. And  at the  same  time,  they  say that look  from  the  aside  is  more objective. So, sometimes  it  makes  sense to pay  another  person displaying the  behaviour that is  wrong,  irritate others  for  some  reason, create problems to  others,  or  does  not  show  respect. It  appears  to  be  a "mirror  effect" then. The  person  start  to  see  his  or  her  behaviour then,  and  attitude  to  other  people. And  they  say,  treat with others  like  you  want  they  treat  with you. If  the  person  does  not  like what  you  show  there and  what  you  do, it  is  once  again  the conformation  of  the  previous  wrong behaviour  of  the subject towards you. Such  the  person  very  quickly  will understand who  taught  you that and  why your  behaviour  changed. Understand, but  not  like. Who likes  bastard,  for  example? No one. It will  start  already  irritate that person,  too. It is  hard  to  live  with  the  same  person like  you  are. Specially,  if  you  are  bastard,  for  example. There  can  be  two developing  of  situation. The  person who is  doing  wrong,  watching his or  her  mistakes displaying this way,  will  change for better.  But,  indeed people do not  change. Very little per  cent of people  change,  and it has  to  happen  some  really particular  situation (like big danger  for example)  in their  life still they to change. Or,  such  the person  will  just  leave  away.. The  second  case  happens  more  often.