THE MORNING ORDER
When the mother takes care about her children so much that some people can think it touches their respect ( or they do not feel respect to themselves), the relationship in most occasions would be ruined. Here is the example.
They just has started to live with the young man together. It was the first common morning. The girl liked to wake up late in the morning, and the guy mostly used to wake up early.
This morning he smacked the girl, said something, when she was half asleep, and left away. At about 10 minutes later he got the phone, woke her up and said that it was a very important call. The girl was confused. She picked up the phone, and then have heard his mother voice telling her: "Stop sleeping, get up and feed my son with breakfast.
It was the first and the last morning of their common life. Sure, not because she could not force herself to wake up then…
Comment of psychologist:
It is not that important what you say, but how you say that. This love story is the example of that.
To take care about the boy-friend is normal. All are different people, with different habits and style of life. Lucky you, if you have met the person very similar to you. Otherwise, necessary to change. And, the relationship to work in a good way, normally both people have to change. It might take some time, but still important the wish to be, then everything will happen and work the best way. And here the young people just started to live together.
From the end of the mother of the guy, she does not know that young woman, who was sleeping in her house. It was the first time, and if the girl did not do in the mood like it was in the family normally, may be, the girl did not know the rules of the family. May be, the guy did not tell her, or he did not want to tell her. And, this way, mother started like to attack the girl. It looks like giving the order.
Well, the mother wanted the best for her kid, wanted the young woman to take care about her child. But, who said that the girl is not gonna do that, if they have relationship and family. And, at the end, the girl could just feel like not very good that morning, too. |t is possible, for explain, to discuss the things in a quite mood, to tell her the family rules and what they are used too. And, later, getting out of this, already make the suggestions and conclusions. The pressing is not always good and the best solution. And, sure, not always works like they want, and might work even the opposite. So, possible to loose the right person with a wrong attitude. Just think, what would you do, exchanging the places with that girl? How would you react and treat? What would you think? What would you think might happen in future, if the first meeting and accepting was like this?
To take care about the boy-friend is normal. All are different people, with different habits and style of life. Lucky you, if you have met the person very similar to you. Otherwise, necessary to change. And, the relationship to work in a good way, normally both people have to change. It might take some time, but still important the wish to be, then everything will happen and work the best way. And here the young people just started to live together.
From the end of the mother of the guy, she does not know that young woman, who was sleeping in her house. It was the first time, and if the girl did not do in the mood like it was in the family normally, may be, the girl did not know the rules of the family. May be, the guy did not tell her, or he did not want to tell her. And, this way, mother started like to attack the girl. It looks like giving the order.
Well, the mother wanted the best for her kid, wanted the young woman to take care about her child. But, who said that the girl is not gonna do that, if they have relationship and family. And, at the end, the girl could just feel like not very good that morning, too. |t is possible, for explain, to discuss the things in a quite mood, to tell her the family rules and what they are used too. And, later, getting out of this, already make the suggestions and conclusions. The pressing is not always good and the best solution. And, sure, not always works like they want, and might work even the opposite. So, possible to loose the right person with a wrong attitude. Just think, what would you do, exchanging the places with that girl? How would you react and treat? What would you think? What would you think might happen in future, if the first meeting and accepting was like this?
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