A STRANGE HUSBAND

A STRANGE HUSBAND

The man used to dress like a homeless and to wear the same clothes for weeks. And only when he would get the note there, he might change the dressing. He did not want to help around the house, too. Even the house was projected and built by his wife there. All the other issues the wife used to decide, do and solve by her own.

His favourite food was bread with milk. He used to eat it all the time, in spite of that at home all the time there was the fresh food prepared there.

There were always much money. Where he earn them and in which mood, his wife did not know. He says that is was doing some internet projects. He could disappear for a week or two. He said that he need nothing there, that he has everything.

A comment of psychologist :

Obvious, it is not a dreamed family. Or, better to say there is no family, indeed. It's a kind of relationship where each person is living his and her own life. If there is love? Who knows. Possible. Because love and relationship they are different things. But, here the guy does not want to take any responsibilities, except the money supporting. At least, this is good. May be, the financial well being of the family he is taking like the most important one point.

But, the true family it is not money point only. The girl friend, the partner, the wife, the woman close to the guy has to feel comfortable in the psychological way, too. The guy has to participate in the family life and discussions, show the interest what is going there with other members of the family. The person exist! How the person can not be interested what is around and in deed in his life, too?

Possible, he also have some problems, and he is closed inside himself in this way. Possible, he has the apathy. And that's why he wants like to do nothing there and does not care how he looks like, what he is dressed in, he can disappear and does not want to spend time with the family. He is lucky that he met that kind of woman, who, even if asks questions, but do not make a scandal or hysteric about such a kind of life that he is providing there. They live together for years and they do not divorce. Probably, the wife also loves him. But, she is not living a full live with that guy.

The guy has still to get out of his "internal box" and talk clear with his wife, so she not to feel confused and could feel more happy.